ill- treated Love
This is the story of a man who dreams of so many thoughts how his life should be after marriage prioritizing two people in his life, mother and wife and how the wife understands the love of her husband and what happens when the wife fails to handle the love.
A husband and wife living with their two boys parted ways when one cannot bother about the family and cannot give up the addicted alcohol drinks. How does a woman react when her husband cannot give up drinking and prioritizes self interests rather than caring about the family and how the family would survive if not planned properly? In Indian families it is the duty of the husband to provide bread and butter to all his family members or say his immediate successors. How does a woman deal with such an irresponsible person married to? The wife is bothered about her only two children who are growing up and understands the fact that children are studying and proper care should be taken to ensure that their needs are met and not diverted from studying properly. Husband is always bothered only about his personal interests and addiction. The duty of the husband to take care of the family is vanished. Wife is worried about the growing children studying in school and concerned only about them. Husband doesn’t change his attitude at any cost. Wife plans to take care of the children though husband is not caring. She starts thinking about her only two children and nothing else. She starts doing what she can to earn some money and take care of her children. She is not concerned and not the least shy to do something and earn a living to take proper care of her children and starts stitching some clothes and taking them to the people who she knows of and selling those to them. The hard earned money by the wife is utilized properly for the livelihood of her only two children and husband is still on his addictions never bothering about what the children are studying, how they are doing in the school and in the exams. All this is understood by the wife and hence all the grade reports are being taken care of the wire and children also slowly understood that it is not their father who is taking care of them and it is only the mother who is bothering all the time about them. Time passes by and at some stage the children in the family lost interest in their father. Wife brings the same to the notice of the husband many times that children are growing and need you, your love and affection. But drowned in his own thoughts and addictions, he doesn’t change at the least and wife warns the husband that the family would be in danger if not cared properly and not taken proper care of the children. Ultimately after children are born both the husband and wife give their full time whenever possible to the children in the family or else children will have no love towards their parents and also towards the elders and the whole value of the relationships is lost. Wife warns the husband again and again to drop his addictions and show his love and care towards the family and the children. Husband raises an issue to this that his only interest is himself and it will not be easy for him to get out of his addictions. In the interest of his personal issues, he doesn’t get back on even to leave his family and move apart to live a life of his own as per his interests. “Any person can live a life of his own, no wrong. But isn’t it the duty of the father to take care of his children when he has given birth to his children?” We come across such people in the society. They are giving birth to children but are not fully responsible for their well being? How can it be? It cannot be…
The family became three from four when the father had moved apart. Mother is fully responsible for the family and starts taking full time responsibility for everything. In simple words, she becomes everything for the family with the money she is earning and takes care of the children. The children have grown up and have been surviving with the care of their mother. They had joined in jobs after completing their graduation in different fields.
They had faced so many tough situations in their life and their life is passing by and it is the time for the children to get married as they had reached the age to get married. The mother tries so much for people who can value family as she had already seen that there are people who do not take care of the family in the form of her husband. So she tries a lot and gets a match for his son whom she knows very well. Usually we think that we know them from so many years and so if at all any issue arises in the family it would be easy to solve the easy with the help of the family members as all the people are known to each other from many years.
The elder son gets married to a girl chosen by the mother and the proposal is liked by all and even to the members of the girl’s family. The girl gets a gift from her elders for her wedding. Like all people she comes to the husband to live for the rest of her life with the family of the husband. And since the moment she came to the house of her husband she starts complaining of something and someone all the time. The husband tries so much to satisfy the interests of the wife and mother. The girl doesn’t stop her complaining and goes the same way. For everything she complains of something and moves out of the house to her house and then after some days someone from the girl’s family come and solve the issue and say that our girl will be more careful and doesn’t do anything like this from now on. But no change in her attitude. Many years ago it is the same case with the father who hadn’t taken proper care of the family and now the same is the attitude of the wife of the son. She doesn’t get down and understand the fact that it is Love that has to be harvested between people and make people happier. The habit of moving out of the family whenever she likes has become a habit and this habit continues for a few years. It is quite natural that we the people are prone to many illnesses and this simple fact cannot be understood by people and in this case the wife decides to move apart after she cannot accept the illness of her husband.
Out of all this, what is the moral of the story? People can be as they like? People can get into relationships as they like and move out when they don;t like something? These days relationships have gone down so much that if people are not living as per to their expectation, they part ways. If people are getting into discussions to solve something, they part ways and finally even if they did not like something, they part ways. Where are we living in the society? Is the society not suited for accepting human values and relations? Is it only the money that people are so much interested in? Do you understand the value of a person basing on his appearance, the car he drives and so on? To demand all these, what is that you need to have? Are you eligible to demand all these? Do you live in the same way as per to the expectations of others before pointing fingers at someone?
The answer for many of these questions would definitely be a ‘No’. We are just human, understand the fact that we are human and life is too short. What do you want in this life? How are you measuring the people around you? Is it necessary to measure them in such ways. What is that your heart is telling you for all the wrong decisions you are making and after doing so many faults had anytime your heart said that you committed a mistake why to commit so many other mistakes? When you can think of all these there would be no misunderstandings and people would not be ill- treated. Understand the simple fact that they are loving you and need you. People need other people on this planet and the goodness is not measured by materials. It is the maturity that separates people from being good and bad. Don’t waste precious life on unnecessary issues and understand the simple fact that it is LOVE that can do wonders and people filled with love may not tell you but will definitely show you. It is your understanding whether you found out the true love or not.
Have a nice time and start showing love to the people around…Loving you…
